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7 Steps to Giving Great Oral Pleasure to a Woman

My lesbian friends are some of the luckiest women I know. They have told me many times that until I’ve received oral sexy from another woman, I haven’t really experienced it. They say that no one knows how to perform cunnilingus like another girl. I’m not sure about that, but I do know that over the years, some of the guys I’ve been with should have brought a road map. They had no clue what they were doing, and that wasn’t much fun for me.

So guys and ladies, if you’re not sure what to do down there, you had better read this article. If you haven’t made your partner’s toes curl and nipples harden because of your technique, you need to learn these seven steps to give great oral sex to a woman.

Step 1

Begin the session by kissing, stroking and fondling her whole body until she is very aroused. Yes, her whole body contains erogenous zones that need to be caressed and sensitized to begin with. Do not touch her labia or clitoris at all during this stage. Stay focused on getting her oohing and ahhing over the sensation of your touch. Once she’s excited, she can lay back and spread her legs with her knees up or spread like a “V” to allow you easy access to her genitals. Once she’s comfortable, kneel or lie between her legs in a comfortable position, with your hands free and your face up close to her genitals.

Step 2

Gently part her labia (lips) and while holding her lips open, lift the clitoral hood. If her clitoris is back inside of the hood, gently run your fingers along the sides of the hood to expose the clitoris.

Step 3

Wet your lips and lick the tissue along the sides, above and below the clitoris with long, broad and gentle tongue strokes. This area around the clitoris has hundreds of nerve endings that connect to the love button. For added variation, bring a mini massager and alternate it with your tongue.

Step 4

Experiment with your tongue strokes and pay particular attention to her responses. Vary the amount of pressure you apply as well as the speed of your licking. Her moans will tell you what she likes. If you can’t tell, just ask her what she likes best. Talk to her in a soothing, sensual tone.

Step 5

Put your lips around the sides of her clitoris and gently suck on the area. Start licking the surrounding tissue and then alternate between licking and light sucking actions.

Step 6

Try directly licking the clitoris to see if she likes it. Not all women like the intense stimulation from direct clitoral contact. If she likes it, start licking and use your hands to gently caress and rub other areas of her body. Pay attention to inner thighs and nipples. These are two common erogenous zones in women.

Step 7

Cover the entire clitoral shaft with your mouth. Gently suck and stroke her clitoris with your mouth and tongue. At this point, don’t move your mouth from her clitoris until she has reached orgasm. If you can, look up at her and make eye contact to show her how much you enjoy giving her pleasure.

As a woman, I have fond memories of guys who were great at performing cunnilingus. So if you want to give your partner great oral pleasure, I strongly suggest you try these oral techniques. I have experienced these exact moves and I love them! I’m sure the woman in your life will love them, too. When you give such intense pleasure to a woman, she will be more excited about you, have intense feelings towards you, feel cared for, wanted, sexy and ready to please you.

If you successfully master these seven techniques, you will have one satisfied, happy, sexually charged woman on your hands. What more could you ask for? Try it today or tonight and you’ll see what I mean. Forget about blowing in her ear to get her to follow you anywhere.

5 Ways to Tell She’s Attracted To You

If you are a bisexual woman and you are just coming out, you will discover that dating is a whole new experience from what you may be used to with men. One of the differences is in reading the signs that a woman is interested in you. This is important because, unlike heterosexual dating, you or the other woman will be responsible for initiating the date. No more waiting for the guy to take the initiative!

Like anything in life, this has its good and bad points. On the one hand, you don’t have to sweat out waiting to see if he will ask you out. On the other hand, you will experience all the anxiety and fear of rejection that men have traditionally had to put up with.

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Now, back to the subject of this article. You may think you know everything there is to know about female attraction, since you are a female. Well, maybe, but in our society you have only been conditioned to interact with men on this level, not women. So determining if a woman is interested in you may be more difficult than you think.

For one thing, men tend to be more overt. For another, if you are meeting a woman in a social context that is heterosexual (in other words, NOT in a gay bar or online dating site) you may not know if she is interested in you as a straight friend or as a lesbian love interest. Since 98% of the population is straight, guess what the odds are? Still, it does happen and you need to be able to figure it out! Here are some signs:

Frequency of contact: After your initial meeting, has this woman initiated contact with you? If you have seen her more than once, does she call you often to talk? Has she asked to see you again? In general, if a woman is interested in you, she will want to contact you and see you as much as possible!

When you do see this woman, what is her mood like? Does she smile a lot or even become giddy? Is she always extra happy to see you? Does she give you a big hug? Conversely, if you are unable to meet with her, does she seem unduly disappointed? Measure these mood reactions with those of friends you have had in the past. In other words, try to determine if her reactions seem more extreme than is typical.

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Alone or in a crowd? Does this woman prefer to see you with other friends or alone? A woman that is interested in you romantically will usually want to see you by yourself, rather than asking you to a party or on a “night out with the girls.”

Listen carefully to what she says. Does she tell you she likes you or really enjoys spending time with you? Does she express that the time goes so quickly when she is with you? If your woman friend doesn’t want the time you spend together to end and has regrets saying good-bye, that’s a sign! Does she offer to go with you when you have alternate plans, such as, “Oh, I have some grocery shopping to do, too. I’ll come with you.” What you are listening for is behavior that falls outside the norm.

Although this is a negative emotion, it is also a sign that a woman is attracted to you. Does she seem to be annoyed when you have other obligations or want to spend time with another friend? Does she feel slighted by your other obligations? it is important to note here that she may be jealous of your time away from her, rather than the actual person or obligation you are attending to!

One final word. A woman who is attracted to you may never have experienced these feelings before. She may be confused and afraid of these feelings. She may even be involved in a heterosexual relationship or married. Often times these feelings occur as a relationship progresses from acquaintance to “best friend.” With most women, feelings of attraction stop at “best friend,” but lesbians will continue to bond past that point into romantic love.