Bi Girls The Art of Cunnilingus

First of all, before we begin let’s get something straight about my favorite past time. This article is going to be graphic and straight to the point, so if you have any problems with learning the vagina in the most intimate of ways…stop…reading…now.

Every woman knows the vagina is a complicated instrument that is attached to our brains, unlike our male counterparts, who merely have to graze it against a tree and they get a hard on.

Well for us ladies it takes a little bit of warming up; it’s all about teasing, and taking it slowly.

All vaginas differ in shape, taste, smell, and feeling. Every woman needs to be learned and understood as an individual. The same trick may not work on all women.

When performing cunnilingus, you don’t only use your mouth and tongue, but your ears to listen to her and your hands to feel her. Stay in tune with your lover. Don’t just focus on making her orgasm. It should be fun and you should enjoy being there watching her while you play with her body and excite her. It’s not a race. You don’t get a prize for how fast you make her climax, but rest assured you will get one for how hard you try.

Start by kissing her entire body and slowly moving south, maybe even gently breathing on top of her vagina so she feels your hot breath without you touching her. Don’t go straight for her love button, a.k.a. clitoris; it can be painful and without a proper welcoming party she might not be interested in playing.

It’s good to spend time around her thighs licking and kissing her sensitive skin, just gently brushing your lips (mouth) against hers (vagina). You want to keep her surprised and be adventurous. Touch her with your fingers without penetrating – just rubbing softly, then quickly. You should always pay attention to how she responds and reacts, listening keenly to every word or moan she utters.

When you notice the colors of her body start changing to darker reds and she is throbbing with excitement, you can start playing with her clitoris. Use your lips to suck on her clitoris, and your tongue to penetrate her and reach in and lick inside; always listening to what she likes while you keep going.

Remember a climax is a buildup so don’t go hot and cold on her. If you do, the momentum you’ve built up will be lost and the excitement level will move back down to base camp (she will not be happy about this). So keep going, always watching her to make sure you’re on target. Here is a clue; if she’s telling you that she likes it then that means don’t stop!

While you’re down there don’t forget there are other parts of her body that need attention. Now is a good time to introduce breast play or if you’re in a little more adventurous mood, there is always anal (stick your pinky in her anus while you go down on her). Now is when your fingers can go inside her and then you can feel her contraction and how close she is to orgasm. With your nose you can rub up against her vagina, what some might call a “down under Eskimo kiss.”

Whatever you decide to do it’s meant to be fun – not a chore, so talk to each other beforehand. Be honest about what you like and want. Remember, no one is a mind reader and it’s a lot more enjoyable when both of you are confident because you’ve discussed what you like and have given permission to discover and explore your body.

So here’s the recap:

* Tease, tease, tease. Play with her body before you go for the direct stimulation.

* Lick, kiss and nibble her stomach, thighs, and outer labia.

* Use your entire face to play with her vagina, your nose, lips, teeth, chin, tongue and you can even use longer hair to tickle her gently.

* Circle around her clitoris and vagina using different pressures and speeds.

* Penetrate her vagina with your tongue.

* Breathe and blow warm air above her vagina but never directly inside especially if she is pregnant (a cause of air embolism).

* Flick you tongue quickly over her clitoris.

* Make your tongue big and flat and rub it all over her vagina.

* Nibble and bite, but only if she’s given you an okay otherwise you might get a smack on the head.

* Touch her while you go down on her, use breast play or penetrate her with your finger either vaginally or anally, matching the rhythm of your tongue.

* Always listen to your partner. Watch her and how she moves.

* Have fun and don’t forget the only way you know if you’re doing it right is to ask (but not a hundred times – just enough that she is screaming yes!)

Oral sex for women is closely linked to body image and self-confidence so talk to each other, share your likes, desires and fears. Always use protection like dental dams and be cautious when your partner is menstruating.

For more information check out these books: The Whole Lesbian Sex Book by Felice Newman, Urge by Dr. Gabrielle Morrissey, The Straight Girl’s Guide to Sleeping with Chicks by Jen Sincero (surprisingly fascinating!)

Now my Darling, go be little vagina explorers and have fun… safe fun!